When are you going to put yourself first? When are you going to finally see that you are the most important person in your life? At first glance, this may seem like a selfish act, which makes you feel bad, guilty, or shameful. But, you have to truly understand that that is a very twisted and distorted perception of what it means to show yourself love.
Now, don’t get me wrong being selfish can be a very ugly human flaw that deservedly so has a negative reputation. I am not here to dispute or argue that fact. Instead, I want to shed a light on the distinction between being selfish and self-love because it’s not always a simple explanation.
What we tend to forget is that many things in life aren’t one thing or the other, they usually reside in a grey area. This is true of selfishness, which can be measured on a scale from someone exhibiting exclusively selfish behavior to no selfish behavior at all. It all depends on your motives and what drives your actions.
So, I want you to really think about it. Sit with this idea of self-love. Sit with this idea of selfishness. What do you feel should be put under each one of these labels? I am asking you this because your idea of self-love needs to be unique to you and no one else. Regardless, self-love should be viewed as one of the purest and highest forms of selfishness.
You might read that last sentence, and say to yourself, “How can self-love be a form of selfishness?” But, to love yourself. I mean to unconditionally love and care about yourself is to be selfish. Because you are putting your needs first. You are putting yourself first. And you are putting your love for yourself first.
It’s being able to accept yourself as you are. It is rooted in caring about your own happiness and well-being. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Because if you don’t take care of yourself and love yourself unconditionally, then how can you expect to love and care for others? You can’t give what you don’t have. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Remember, self-love doesn’t make you boastful, arrogant, or prideful. Rather instills patience, more understanding towards others, and makes you an overall better person. It will allow you to recognize the limitlessness of who you are, step into your power, and walk firmly in your truth. Your heart will expand with more love than you’ve ever felt before. From that place of incredible self-love within, you will create a world that reflects back your new reality. Hold in your heart space the highest vision for yourself and the world because it’s coming faster than you can imagine.